Tips for reducing public speaking nervousness

 “The only way to learn to speak is to speak and speak, and speak and speak, and speak and speak and speak.”

-Elbert Hubbard

According to Wall Street Journal, the number one fear in America is public speaking and the fear of death is ranked number two. Yes, that’s right and we seem to be more afraid of public speaking rather than death, heights, bungee jumping, etc.

Fear of public speaking is also a kind of fear of death-emotional death. People who have fear of public speaking tend to have sweaty palm, feel nervous, speaks not clearly and don’t want to do public speaking bur rather do anything instead.

The fear of public speaking could affect your professional as well as personal life. However, there are tips and techniques to overcome your fear of public speaking.

Tips for reducing public speaking nervousness

1.       Don’t expect perfection from yourself: You must know that nobody is perfect. Some of us tend to be carried away by a simple mistakes rather than handling it effectively. Even the most successful professional speaker also makes mistakes in their public speaking or speech but they handle it quite well and move on gracefully. Keep this in mind while doing public speaking and don’t expect too much from your speech and all will be well.

2.       Avoid being nervous about your nervousness: People who lack confidence or practice become nervous and on top of that feel anxious on the fact that they are nervous. The flow of our adrenaline is nervousness and successful speakers know how to convert it into their energy. It is okay to be nervous and all the successful speakers also get nervous. So, don’t be nervous about your nervousness instead find a way to convert it into enthusiasm and charisma.

3.       Avoid equating public speaking to your self-worth: Public speaking is only a part of your professional life. Even if you are not good in public speaking don’t let it depress you and don’t think that only the public speaking ability determine your worth in public. There may be other things that you excel most in and through which you can be successful and be popular in public.

4.       Avoid trying to memorize every word: There is no need to memorize each and every word of your speech. Most of the audience can easily recognize if you have fear of public speaking or not and whether you are giving speech by memorizing each and every of word or not. Trying to memorize and giving speech is just stressing and can cause more nervous if you forgot just only one word of speech.

5.       Avoid reading word for word: Don’t read each and every line and its words from slide while doing public speaking or giving presentation. There is a vast difference between reading and speaking. Even though the audience might get information from your reading but they might lose interest in hearing your presentation. Speaking makes an impact on the audience perception of your personality and the content or topics on which you are speaking. If you are only reading you won’t know whether audience have understood your ideas or not and you will never reduce your nervousness of public speaking just reading only.

6.       Work on your breathing: Some people having fear of public speaking often have abnormal breathing which may also stir their voice and the audience easily know that he/she is nervous. So, work on your breathing as it will help your voice to be more resonance and you will relax. Breathe calmly and just go with the flow.

7.       Record your speech, listen and improvise: Record your practice speech in your recorder or in mobile phone. Then, listen or watch it and find out what are bad and good part of your presentation and improvise the part on which you are lacking something.

If you think that there are others ways to reduce nervousness of public speaking then please let me know in the comment section below

How to Prepare for an Exam

Most of the students have the habit of preparing for an exam two or three days before the exam and some students start to study only one day before an exam. These kinds of students normally face pressure such as whether they will complete all the important topics or not. There is no need to feel any stress or problem before exam. You can be always confident before exam by just following tips:

1.       Start reading early: First, determine how long it takes you to complete all the topics that will be on exam. If it takes you to complete 1 week, you can start reading two weeks before exam so that you will be confident enough to give exam. Don’t just start reading one day before the exam. Give yourself more than enough time to complete all the topics.

2.       Get some good notes: If you don’t have sufficient notes for the exam, you can ask your friends who is good at study and make neat and clean notes to borrow a note or you can do a photocopy of your friend notes. If you don’t have good notes, you will just be stuck in the middle of your study and the stress will develop. So, before starting to study, make sure that you have sufficient and good notes.

3.       Read all the topics written on notes and important for exam: Having good notes is not only good if you are not going to study them all. You have to study all the topics of note and if you read the topics that you think important than the other topics might come in exam and that is the nature of exam. So, study the entire notes that you have prepared.  

4.       Ask your teachers about the test materials: Teachers don’t tell the exact questions that might come in exam but they can tell about the model of question, topics that need to be covered for exam, which topics will be necessary for exam or not, etc. So, it is best for you to ask teacher about the test and the topics needed to be study for exam.

5.       Re-read your notes: Yes, re-read your notes. Reading notes only one time might not help you. It is not sure that you will understand all the things just reading once. So, re-read until you understand the concept of topics what you are reading.

6.       Take notes while you study: While studying notes, take notes of some topics that you are feeling difficult to understand, important topics that you think will come in exam and some topics mentioned by the teacher. Before the exam, it will be time consuming to review important topics from your notes which include all the topics important as well as not important. Therefore, take notes while you study.

7.       Review your syllabus: Syllabus includes all the topics that should be studied before the exam and that might come in exam. Syllabus also provides students information what topics should be studied and what not. Teachers teach students on the basis of syllabus, so, it is very important for students to review syllabus before exam.

8.       Write down the major topics that you find important in syllabus: Study the topics once again in your notes and books that you find important in the syllabus.

9.       Review study guides and sections: Most of the books at the end of each chapter have summary on important topics and questions as well as answers on some books. So, don’t forget to study and review that section of books.

10.   Make flash cards: Make flash cards for the topics or information that you are having difficult to understand and remember. In addition, you can carry the flashcards wherever you want and review it whenever you like it.

11.   Quiz yourself: You can ask your brothers, sisters or friends to ask questions from your notes, books and flash cards relevant to exam. In this way, you get to know how much you understand the topics of your notes and books. If there is anything that you had forgot, you can re-read and memorize it.

12.   Practice questions: For subjects like math and statistics, the more you practice the more you understand and gain confidence for exam.

13.   Review past questions: Collect the past questions and you can study the topics that have come in the exam before. Even though the past question might not come in exam but it will give you an idea on what type of question will be asked in what format in the exam.

14.   Go to class the day before the exam: Teacher generally provide information such as topics that need to be study, format of question and the most important topics.

15.   Study with a friend: Form a study group with your friends and study together and discuss the topics that might appear in the exam. This will help you to further understand the topics that you have read.

16.   Quiz each other: In a study group you can ask each other potential questions to each other and you might find some topics that you have forgot to study.

17.   Have a sound sleep: Scientist believe that a sound sleep is also one of the major factors determining a better test scores. So have a sound sleep before the exam and don’t stay all night studying.

Top 5 ways to live a happy life

Happy, when a person becomes happy? Is the wealthiest person of this planet is the happiest person? Does the person who has difficulty in fulfilling his need can become truly happy? Well, a person can achieve happiness if he/she can do things that he want and achieve what him /her desire. Even the wealthiest person can’t become happy, if he can’t spend the life the way he want it. And, the poor person can’t become truly happy until he/she become able to fulfill his needs.

Who don’t want to live a happy life? Everybody wants to be happy. And, all the people are doing different kinds of work to be happy and make other happy. There are some tips that people can use to live a happy life in below:

Top 5 ways to live a happy life

1.     Expend only on things that you need: Most of the people believes that buying and using expensive mobiles, bikes, car, and many other things will increase their standard of living and are respected by other people. Because of this belief, most of the people are spending more on expensive things which they can’t afford. As a result, those people are living a life with too many debts. There is no guarantee that expensive things can create long lasting happiness but it is sure that careful spending won’t make you feel regret and provide enjoyment in the long run.

2.     Invest money in productive work: There are times when people need money urgently. So, many people need to keep certain portion of money in saving. But, it is not so good to keep a large amount of money in saving as that money stays idle. That money can be invested in some productive works which provide a good return. A person needs to be very careful while investing their money. An investment in good project can provide person a good income which is very important for a person to lead a happy life.

3.     Develop long lasting relationships: Assume you had all that you needed. Would you be cheerful without anybody to share it with? The relationships we create with loved ones and the family members are the well wisher and source of happiness. So, try not to do anything that will hurt them. Our friends, family and relatives are the one with whom we share our happiness and sorrow. People say that happiness gets doubled and sorrow get half if happiness and sorrow are shared with other people. Therefore, to live a happy life, one needs to value the relationship with loved ones and try to maintain it for lifetime.

4.     Educate yourself: we need positive growth in our life to be happy. The best way to achieve positive growth is lifelong education. A person don’t need to have certificate of higher level education such as engineering and MBBS to educate themselves and become happy. A person can educate themselves by keeping their mind open and get new ideas and perspectives by observing other people and their surroundings. A person gets education either by studying or by experiences.

5.     Do work you are passionate about: There are so many people who are confused about what to do in his/her life. In this confusion, many people imitate others and follow the work of people whom they admired. As a result, he/she will fail eventually in the work of people whom they admired and lead unhappy life. Therefore, first, a person needs to find things that he liked to do most. Then, the person should try to make their career in that sector on which they have passion which can lead to a happy life.

There is one more thing that I would like to say that we won’t be given another chance to live life again so we also have to take care of our health and stay in shape. Those people who are healthy can become happy in their life. So, we have to take care of our health and eat healthy foods so we won’t have any problem later.

Stress Management: Tips for Managing Stress

In this age and modern life, stress management technique has become most essential skill to everyone. Nowadays, people are living and working in dynamic environment. The environment has changed dramatically from those of the past. People are facing more difficulties and challenges in workplace, market, society, and home as well. The skill to identify the cause of problem and overcome the cause is one of the key to stress reduction.

Stress is an ordinary and physical response to the situation which is demanding more and more from you. Everybody experiences stress sooner or later in life and it can affect you skill and ability to cope with life. That’s why we need supportive people around us who can help in stressful situation as well as self care. Stress can be good too as it helps to know what we are afraid of and in what sector we are weak and help us to develop skill to deal with difficult situations. But, if a person faces stress continually without relief breaks that is going to affect both physical and mental health. A continuous stressful situation can increase blood pressure, suppress immunity power, raise the risk of stroke and heart attack, speed up the aging process, etc.

Stress Management Techniques:

I believe that the following are the stress management techniques or tips that you find helpful in your life.

1.       Avoid Caffeine, Alcohol and Nicotine: Taking alcohol and nicotine is not going to solve your problem. It is not ideal technique to solve problems. This is only going to make you forget about problem for some time. Instead of sitting idle drinking, you can think of a solution of a problem.

2.       Indulge in Physical Activity: More demanding situation increases the level of stress hormones (adrenaline) in your body. Therefore, try to do something physical work or exercise in order to balance the excess stress hormones which can help you to restore your body to normal. There is no need to do big things. You can just take a walk in fresh environment for a minute.

3.       Get More Sleep: Stress is also caused due to inadequate sleep. Even though, stress can take away our sleep as we keep thinking so many things which can’t be helped. Instead of taking medication for sleep, try to sleep naturally. You can avoid doing difficult works before going to bed. It is better to remove things that will remind you of bad memories. You can read books easy to understand to tire your eyes and sleep naturally.

4.       Try Relaxation Techniques: Relaxation techniques are one of the best stress management techniques. You can listen to music or watch a favorite movie or you can take a walk in a park or think of something positive such as love and peace.

5.       Talk to Someone: You can distract yourself from stressful situation by talking to someone. Be careful to whom you talk with. Talk to someone who understands your situation. Stressful situations affect your ability to judge things around you and can make the situation worst. So, it is best for you to talk to someone who is supportive.

6.       Take Control: Some people are intimidated or taken away by the problem and can’t think rationally. Don’t lose your calm and think of the causes of the problem and find the solution which is beneficial. Try to control your emotion and do things that are important instead of feeling bad for yourself.

7.       Manage your Time: Most of the people have the habit to do things in the last minute before deadline.  At that moment, people are confused with what things to do first and they are also afraid of not finishing works and some can’t finish their works which would lead only to stress and depression. Therefore, prepare your to do list in accordance to importance and take action.

8.       Learn to say No: One of the main causes of stress is not being able to say no. Most of the people can’t say no because they want to be liked by others. and, they accept to do those things that they don’t like which will only increase their level of stress.

9.       Rest if you are ill: You can ask somebody to do things for you if you can’t do it or ill. There is no need to force yourself to do things. That will make you feel more ill and you can’t do work properly due to illness and later you will regret and lead you toward stress.

Let me know in the comment section below if you believe that there are other stress management tips. 

Procrastination Problem: How to Stop Procrastination Habit

“Procrastination is one of the most common and deadliest of diseases and its toll on success and happiness is heavy.”

-Wayne Gretzky

Procrastination is the practice of doing things that is more pleasurable and avoiding things that need to be accomplished. In other words, procrastination is the practice of keeping work for a later time. People tend to procrastinate until the last minute of deadline. Procrastination is the most common habit of people and had a great impact on success and happiness of life. It can also lead a person toward stress, guilt, depression, and self-doubt.

You have a due date approaching. On the other hand, rather than doing your work, you are fiddling with various things like checking email, online networking, watching recordings, surfing websites and gatherings. You know you ought to be working; however you simply don't have a craving for doing anything.

Postponing, putting off things, slacking, escaping work, confronting work just when it's unavoidable is procrastination phenomenon. It is a bad habit which leads our life toward stress, guilt and prevents us from achieving greater things. Therefore, don’t let habit of procrastination take over your life. I have mentioned below the tips to stop habit of procrastination that I have found in internet and some suggested by my friends:

1.       Break your work into little parts: The reason behind our procrastination habit is that we sub-consciously think work needed to be done as bothersome and not exciting at all. Therefore, try to break your work into little parts and work at one part of a work at a time which can make you feel that you can do easily the given work easily. You can also take a short break after completing part of the work.

2.       Change your environment: One of the factor that trigger our mood to do work or not is environment. Suppose the exam is coming near and you have to study but if your room is disorganized and your books and notes are not in proper place, will you have mood to study, of course not.  So, change your environment into one which will motivate to do things.

3.       Eliminate the things that help you to procrastinate: Figure out what is helping you to continue your procrastination habit such as facebook, movies, friends or anything or anybody. While you are doing your work or project it is better for you to stay away from these things and better turn off automatic notification of your smart phone.

4.       Hang out with people who motivate you to take action: Stay away from people who are lazy and always keep things for later. It is said that bad habit is learned faster than good habits. Try to spend more time with people who is very hardworking, can guide and help in doing things.

5.       Get a companion: Doing things alone and doing with a buddy can make a difference and make doing things interesting. Preferably, your pal ought to be somebody who has his/her own arrangement of objectives. Both of you will consider one another responsible to your objectives and plans. While it's a bit much for both of you to have the same objectives, it'll be shockingly better if that is the situation, so you can gain from one another.

6.       Tell others about your goals: If you tell about your goals to your family members, relative, friends, colleagues, and other people whom you know then they will ask certainly about your goal whenever you meet them. It is a great way to make yourself accountable.

7.       Seek out someone who has already had good results: Identify what you want to accomplish first? And try to find out people who had already achieved goal that you have set. If you find people who had already achieved goal same as yours that will motivate you to do things as your goal seems achievable and makes you think that if other can do that than why I can’t.

8.       Re-clarify your goals: If procrastination habit is in the way of doings then you are forgetting about your own goal and what you really want to do. So, try to think about your goals and what you really wanted to do and the reward and punishment of doing things or not doing.

9.       Don’t complicate things: Are you thinking that this is not a perfect time to do things? Are you waiting for a perfect time for doing things? Ditch that kind of thinking because there is no perfect time to do anything. It is you who takes the action and make things right or wrong. So, don’t complicate things and stop procrastination habit.

10.   Get a grip and just do it: At the end, you have to do things that you have been keeping for later time no matter what. No matter how you plan things, it doesn’t have value until you take action. Procrastination habit will only make things worse as you have to complete things just before deadline. So get a grip on yourself and do things needed to be done right now.

How to look attractive (Men)

There is nobody who doesn’t want to be popular and attractive and one person can’t be attractive to all the people. Some person may find attractive certain person but other’s may not. There are some ways to be attractive that anybody can follow:

1.       Grooming: It is good for health to practice good hygiene as well as appealing to others. Make your appearance neat, clean and tidy. Most of the women also prefer a man who is well groomed and smell nice.

·         Take bath every day and put deodorant after taking bath in the morning and make sure not to use too much of it.

·         Your impression also depends on how you smell so you need to use body spray too.

·         Men are likely to have more pimples than woman as they have more amount of testosterone. So, wash your face every morning and night with the face wash that suits your skin type.

·         Take care of your facial hair, whether you want to keep a beard or not make sure to groom it properly.

·         At least, once a week clean and trim your nails and brush your teeth every day.

2.       Styling Hair: Hairstyle is also one of the important factors that determine men attractiveness. Whether you decide to keep it long or short, it needs a proper care and trim the unnecessary hair that grows down the back of your neck.

·         Have your hair trimmed regularly to avoid split ends.

·         Wash your hair everyday works out the best for men and choose the best shampoo and best conditioner that suits your type of hair.

·         It is up to you whether to use hair products or not to style your hair and make it look shinier and healthier.

·         Choose the best hairstyle that best suits your face. For this, you can ask advice of your friends and hair stylist.

3.       Clothing:  You must have heard the phrase clothes make the man. It doesn’t mean that you need to wear expensive dress but you have to wear the dress that fit the structure of your body.

·         Wear the clothes that suits what you will be doing. Don’t wear anything lying around even for casual dressing.

·         Shop with a friend who dresses well and who have a sense of fashion because the mirror can’t tell all the things about you and the clothes that you are going to buy.

·         Wear clothes that suit your body structure. Don’t wear clothes that don’t suit you but looked good on celebrity.

·         Figure out what colors suit you and wear clothes of that color.

·         Do not wear dirty clothes even when you are staying home. Do your laundries twice or thrice time a week.

4.       Have an attractive presence: Do things that can make other people remember you. You can practice good posture. When you stand straight firmly, people perceive you as a confident person. The most important thing greet everybody with a smile. Be optimistic and find joy even in a bad aspect of life. When you are talking to other people make sure that they know you are interested in what they are saying by making eye contact. And, you don’t have to always wear a suit or formal dress to be a gentle man. You just need to say “please, thank you, excuse me” and open and hold the door for other people to pass by. Besides, make sure that you are talking fluently while talking to someone. If you can’t speak fluently, sharpen your conversation skill and speak words clearly and carefully.

5.       Take care of your body: In a college/office, if you are most of the times absent because of sickness, you will be perceived as a weak person and your attractiveness will be decreased.

·         Stick to a healthy diet, avoid junk foods, and eat plenty of fruits and vegetables.

·         Try to do exercise regularly.

·         Keep up to date with what is happening in the world and improve your intelligence.

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How to be more friendly and social?

If you are a shy person and face difficulty and feel awkward with talking to people, you are on a right place. What kinds of people are friendly and social? I believe those friendly and social people are very excited to meet new people and to whom other wants to talk to and can easily talk to new people while waiting for bus, in the airport, in the line at the drugstore and wherever they are stuck.

Can you make friends in a short time or it takes too long to make friends? Do you find very hard to talk to new people when you switch jobs to new place, transfer to new school or migrate to new place.

If this is the case then you don’t need to worry because I have some tips for you to be more friendly and social. They are discussed in the following points:

1.       Smile more: In order to become more friendly and social person, you don’t need to smile to each and every person you see. But, you have to make effort to smile more to people you greet, or to someone you know. So, smile more in appropriate situation when you are having conversation which will make you appear approachable and friendly.

2.       Start talking with new people: It is true that we don’t have much to talk with new people. Greeting new people by saying hi or asking their name and at the end saying nice meeting you can make a difference in how you appear to other people. So, make an effort to talk to new people.

3.       Talk to people you already know: If you meet someone you knew in the street or passing by someone house you knew, then stop by to talk to them or you can just greet them and ask about their condition. This kind of little things let other people to know that you care for them and you are interested in their activity which will make you more friendly and social person.

4.       Invite people to do things with you/group: Being more friendly and social means spending time more with people around us. For that, invite your friends or relative if there is some a program or celebration party in your house.

5.       Go to where the people are: Don’t try to spend time alone at work place or at the party and try to do things what all other people are doing if you think that is harmless. If you sit idle in one place at the party or any other place, you will be considered unsociable person. So, go to where people are.

6.       Have nice gestures towards other people: Opening door to people, bringing foods or drinks in party to other people makes you more friendly and social person. But, do not try too much to impress other people because you may be taken advantage of the situation.

7.       Compliment others: Complimenting people is also one of the sign of friendly person. Don’t be shy to compliment others when you really mean it. Just a small compliment will make you look like more friendly and social person and people will consider you a nice person and appear approachable to others.

8.       Make sure not to bore people who are around you: Without being a pest, make some efforts to make sure that everyone is having a good time when you’re out with people. Give your own opinion and if someone is left out of conversation, make some efforts to make them participate in conversation. If somebody doesn’t like things you are doing, then it is better to stop it or you can explain them and ask them to do it if you believe that they are going to love it once they try.

9.       Open up: Becoming more friendly and social also means sharing things about you as well. You don’t have to share your deepest and darkest secrets. But, you reveal things about yourself little bit embarrassing as well which makes other people think that you are comfortable talking about yourself and other people. You can open up about childhood memories, something you have always wanted to do, funny mistake you did and anything which can help you to become more friendly and social.

Confidence: How to boost your confidence?

The way through which we act or perform any kind of activity shows how confident we are. Confidence is one of the key to achieve success and prosperity. It can be considered as an important aspect which leads a person towards its goals.

The level of confidence can be analyzed through our behavior. Confidence makes a person feel strong to express their feelings towards others. It is an important tool for a person to make his life easier to live.

Without confidence a person won’t be able to make an impression towards others. Confidence plays a vital role in the development of personality. It helps the person to show his potential among others. The person has to believe in himself and fade away the fear to act to achieve confidence.

The leader and the successful speaker also lack the confidence at some point of his/her life. The level of confidence of a person doesn’t remain constant forever. When a person passes from different phases of life, he develops or increases his/her level of confidence. There are some ways with which a person can boost his/her confidence and they are discussed below

The ways to boost confidence level are as below:

1.     Be honest with yourself: If you lack confident, work out your weak points overcome what you fear. And, if you can do something better than others than don’t be over confident. You need to know your own ability and have confident in your ability. Most people are confused with conceit as confident in life. There is a difference between conceit and ability so know your own ability and be confident on what you can do.

2.     Dress well: Believe it or not, the way we wear clothes have impact on how people see us. The way we dress also has impact on how we act and perceive things. Suppose you are in a business party and you are in a casual dress would you feel confident while talking to others. But, if you are wearing the formal dress (suit) than you will sure feel confident and other also perceive you as a confident person.

3.     Be prepared: The more you spend time in preparation the more you feel confident in doing things. If you give a presentation after preparing one week and preparing for one day, the difference will surely been seen by others and obviously you will feel more confident in presentation for which you have prepared one week.

4.     Positive thought: Positive thinking means to focus onto the strong points and learning from mistakes and weakness. We can see most of the people hanging onto the past and making a bigger issue out of small things. This kind of behavior tends to increase negativity in a person and destroy confidence of a person. Therefore, people need to stay away from negativity and focus on positive thinking.

5.     Be assertive: No matter what other people’s say, you must stand up for what you believe and should stick to the principle. If a person is assertive, he/she will stand up for a thing which is right no matter what happens.

Confidence is the way through which a person can express his feelings, ideas and thoughts to others. It makes a person able to perform the activity with great efficiency and effectiveness. It makes the work easier and helps the person to handle it more conveniently. Confidence is one of the essential aspects which help a person to live a successful life. A person can deal with different kinds of situation and persons with the support of confidence.

The way in which a person shows his ability, talent, skills and potential shows how much courage and confidence the person acquired. The person will be able to perform any task with ease after having the confidence to act.

Anger Management: How to overcome Anger

Anger is just like any other emotion such as happiness, and when dealt properly it can become our strong points. Suppose a person who gets angry easily can start doing Boxing, Karate, Kick Boxing, etc because anger is very essential in those kinds of sector. All the people get angry time to time and say things or do things which make them regret later. In addition, if anger is not dealt properly, it can hurt our relationships, career and reputations. Therefore, if you are a short temper person then you need to learn more about anger management.

Anger management is the skill to deal with anger properly and remain calm and composed and to take appropriate action to deal with anger effectively. There are techniques to manage anger effectively. If you get angry too much and for a long time then consider the following tips to deal with your anger effectively.

Tips to overcome Anger

1.       Think before you speak: While you are getting heated by things around you, you tend to say things or do things that you will regret later. Even though, you are extremely angry think about the things that you are going to say and the consequences as well.

2.       Express your anger once you are calm: Hold up until you have quieted down from your outrage and after that express your anger or outrage without hurting others feeling. You should be assertive rather than being forceful.

3.       Get some exercise: When you are angry instead of saying things and doing things that you will regret later, try to vent your anger by doing exercise such as you can go for a walk or run, or spend some time with doing things that you love.

4.       Take a time out: Time out is not only for the player in a sport to re-think about their strategy. Take a short break if you are accumulating stress and having stressful days. This will give you refreshment and a few minute of time spending alone or visiting new place with friends or anything that will refresh you from your daily schedules might help you to feel better and can avoid your cause of anger.

5.       Identify possible solutions: It can be useful to recognize what made you furious in any case. In any case, it is more important to concentrate on an approach to determine the possible solution of the causes of your anger. In addition, you have to understand that being angry is not going to help you anyway and it will make situation worse only.

6.       Don’t hold grudge: Holding grudge is only going to increase your anger. Therefore, you need to learn to forgive who has angered your or done something wrong. If you allow negative feeling such as holding grudge then you are putting yourself in much worse situation and find yourself swallowed by your own bitterness. You can’t control how other people behave but you can learn to forgive others if they had done something wrong.

7.       Use humor to release tension: Yow can relate things that are making you angry with humor and the simple act of laughing can make you feel better. But, keep in mind that others might misinterpret your laughing though it can make you feel better. And, don’t use sarcasm like most of the angry people as it can make situation only worse.

8.       Practice relaxation skills: When your temper is increasing, practice relaxation skills. You can practice deep breathing exercises, listen to music, do yoga, write diary, etc to make you calm and composed.

9.       Know when to seek help: Trying to do things that are far beyond your ability is only going to stress you and lead you towards anger. Therefore, know your ability and ask for help if you alone can’t do things right.

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Tips to Improve Personality

How regularly do we hear the term personality development, from our tutors, our instructors, on the fronts of self improvement guides or on the flags of organizations and learning focuses? The use of the personality development in our daily life signals towards its significance in today's life. So what does it mean personality development? Is it something about what you look like, or how you talk? On the other hand is it how effortlessly you can connect with other individuals? Today’s world is so competitive. It is very hard to survive in today’s competitive world. In order to survive one need to have dynamic personality and smart enough to change with changing environment.

10 tips to improve personality

Here I have 10 very important tips over how you can procure a well enhanced personality.

1.     Be confident in yourself: Don’t doubt yourself. You need to be confident in yourself otherwise who will be.  Being confident about your identity and anything that you are doing is the crucial tip for personality development. Never doubt your capacities and if there is something that you lack than work day and night and overcame what you fear the most. In order to develop confident you can read biography of successful person and read motivational book as well as listen to the motivational speaker.

2.     Be yourself: It is a fact that at some point of life we have admired other people and get inspiration from others. Some people even want to be like people they have admired. But, they need to know that he/she had become successful because he/she didn’t care about what others people say and just became himself/herself. Every one of us is distinctive and different people don’t get success in only one sector. They achieve success in different sector in which what they excel not in the sector of people whom they have admired.

3.     Check your attire: I am not saying that exterior self is more important than inner self i.e. skill and knowledge acquired by people. It is a fact that what person wears also play an important role in developing good impression to others. Dressing good also boosts your confidence. You need to dress good but you also have to keep your surrounding in mind. For example: if you are in a job interview and wearing a casual dress, will that create a good impression in front of interviewer.

4.     Give opinion: Will you feel good when you are talking with someone but you feel that you are the only one talking? Obviously, you will not feel good.  The conversation is going nowhere if there is no opinion. Therefore, try to give your opinion even if it is different from the speaker’s view. The thing that attracts people is something that is different to them.

5.     Develop new interests: If a person have few interests than he/she won’t have enough topics to talk with other. People with so many interests are liked by more people and he/she can start a conversation on a new interesting topics. And, you don’t need to stress much on what topics to talk when you meet new people as you can have more knowledge because of your interests. So, develop new interests.

6.     Develop a proper body language: One of the ways to know people is to observe his/her body language as it tells about a person. A person with proper body language can communicate well or make people understand his or her ideal accurately. The way you eat, talk, walk and all the other activities that you do makes impact to other people in the perception of your personality.

7.     Be a good listener: Listening skill is what most of the people lack. If you are talking and others are not listening carefully, would you like that kind of person. Obviously not. It is same with other people. If you do not listen well to other people they obviously don’t like you. Listening carefully cam help you people to develop likeable personality.

8.     Be courteous: Being courteous doesn’t hurt you at all and the people like those person who pays proper respect to everyone. Greet the people with smile and always be ready to help people who are in need. Helping others fills the heart with joy and you will also be set as a example of ideal people.

9.    Be a little fun: Most people like persons who can change the bad mood. Suppose that you and your friends are in a bad mood and you suddenly changed the mood of your friends with a joke or with a funny act or anything else. Then, certainly, you will be liked by all the friends.

10. Meet new people: Meeting new people help you to know about different cultures and lifestyles. It helps people to see things from different perspective which can enhance your personality.